![]() I lived in the USA for 10 years of my life and had Afrikaans parents.I have never claimed to be a perfect parent, but I do wish to say that I have learnt some lessons on what to do and what not to do over the past 40 years of my own parenting and that of a parenting coach.When trauma happens, to help a child feel safe and secure, boundaries have to stay intact so that there is at least something that remains predictable – parent’s love and their limits.We have to prepare them, teach them how to handle those emotions and help them to build character. Even though we would like to, we cannot protect our children from experiencing a spectrum of emotions nor pain. Trauma and challenges are part of life.Tell us about your own life and what your personal experiences have taught you about raising happy, healthy children and creating positive family dynamics despite life’s challenges. You have a twin sister, 4 children, you were divorced after 24 years of marriage, remarried 16 years and you currently have 9 grandchildren. Maslow, “If you only have a hammer you will treat everything as a nail” Parenting is like that – you need many tools in your toolbox. What is the best parenting advice you have ever received? “Rules without relationship cause rebellion relationship without rules cause confusion.” 6. I have had various mentors through my parenting years, but the ones that stand out for me are my cousin who had 6 children in six years and my friend Sherry, a wonderful mother of 7 grown children. Do you have a personal mentor? If so, who? Mark Gregston, Baby Sense, John C Maxwell, Tim and Bev La Haye, Kevin Leman, Steven Covey, Bill and Pam Farrell and many more.Ĥ. Subsequently I have research materials from a variety of authors/books/speakers such as: I have a variety of mentors and have combined many schools of thoughts my strongest mentor over the past 40 years has been Dr James Dobson (Focus on the Family) and my brother, Prof Johan Mostert and for the last 20 years, Drs Cloud and Townsend (Boundaries). On which school of thought are your teachings based? Having theoretical knowledge is beneficial but experiencing the family dynamics and being instrumental in changing them is the most rewarding job you can imagine! 3. How has visiting 3 families a day changed your views on parenting? These programmes fascinated me and I realised I had the passion, knowledge and experience to also reach out and help desperate parents. I also watched Tanya Byron’s programmes,”Little house of tiny tearaways” where 4 families would stay in one house together for a week while they were observed and helped by a psychologist. “If she can do it, so can I”, I heard myself saying. While watching the TV programme, Super Nanny, I realised with my heart racing that I was desperate to help these types of struggling families. But 10 years ago, families would ask me to come and observe what happens in their homes. Over the past 16 years the seminar has grown and been adapted as my research increased. I compiled a parenting course with the input of my brother who is a Professor in Psychology. My child wont eat vegetables and on and on.What do I do when my child throws a tantrum.Parents constantly were asking me the same questions over and over: This I owned and grew from 10 to 80 children over the next 8 years. I ran a mother and child group for 12 years and in that time started a play school. Tell us about the moment you decided to become a parenting coach? In between her busy schedule we manage to sneak in some questions.ġ. Within 3 years the world has sat up and taken notice of phrases such as “Discipline vs Diet”, Peace in the Home, Empowered Parents, and “Boundaries”, all thanks to a not so granny-looking Super Granny, international Parenting Coach and Author, Andalene Salvesen.
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